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Small ways to change the trajectory of someones day

Never underestimate how much a small act of kindness can change a persons day or even their life. Doing something for someone you don’t know, without even thinking twice about it, can change the trajectory of their day.

My Wednesday began very abruptly at 1:00 this morning. I woke to my youngest son who was very sick with a stomach bug, not exactly how I had envisioned how our morning would begin. Luckily it seemed to be a quick thing and the day began getting better as his stomach issues subsided. He was feeling better and more like himself. We headed to the local Walmart to get him some ginger ale and bland food to put in his tummy, while getting some much needed fresh air. Things were looking better for the moment.

Things quickly headed south as I was checking out at Walmart and my debit card was declined several times. With no cash, no checkbook and no other means of paying, I apologized profusely to the cashier as well as the women behind me, as I was very embarrassed. Quietly the women behind me stepped up and inserted her card to pay the 46.00 bill. After thanking her repeatedly, I asked for her name and mailing address so that I could mail the money back. She said her name was Becky and that she did not want me to pay her back, but to pay it forward.

Becky had absolutely no idea what my son and I had been through earlier. She had no idea why my card would not go through, it did not appear to matter to her. No questions asked. She helped us, a stranger and her little boy, making a huge impact on us both. My son did not fully understand the magnitude of her action. Surely this will be the topic of many future discussions. I have never had anyone do anything like that for me or anyone that I know, and it changed the way I think about helping others, especially those I don’t know.

Many times in my life I have thought about doing some small act of kindness only to get busy and forget about it, ending up doing nothing at all. Thank you Becky for your kindness, and the gentle reminder that there are good people in the world. I absolutely will pay it forward.

As you go about your everyday, remember we are here to serve one another. One small act of kindness can change a persons day. Go, do some random act of kindness and be blessed by blessing others in some small, quiet way.

Till then…

Sonya

Our Story

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Hello friends! It has been a minute since I have posted here on the blog and decided I should share our story, and why i may struggle sometimes to post .

At the young age of 40 (ha), actually two months from turning 41, I gave birth to my third child Parker. Having a child in my forties was not my plan but Gods, and it took some getting used to.

After seeing his sweet little face all the fears about having a baby in my forties disappeared and all I could do was love this beautiful baby God had blessed us with.

He was a very good baby who didn’t seem to reguire a ton of sleep and didn’t nurse very well  yet he was meeting all of his milestones, so we didn’t have too many concerns at the time.

It wasn’t until he started eating baby food and some table food that we realized there was a problem because he would gag with baby food and most table foods. After being diagnosed failure to thrive, occupational therapy was started to help him with his eating and gag relexes.

After about a year of therapy for that, without much improvement, we moved on to testing for other things.  So many test were done that we felt like he was being tortured and no diagnosis were given.  Finally we put a stop to it when the gagging stopped and we tried our best to feed him what he would eat.

When he was in 3 year preschool we started noticing that he was somewhat different than the other kids, he didn’t have an interest in playing with the other kids and pretty much kept to himself in class and on the playground, where he would just stand and watch the traffic go by.  When he played he liked to line up things and not move them or he like to say the same things over and over. Developmentally we saw that he was signifiganlty behind in colors, numbers and other things.

At this point we switched doctors in order to find the best care and try to figure out what was going on with our sweet boy.  After lots of conversations with doctors, we were referred for some neuropsychological testing.

From those test we were given some answers. Parker was diagnosed with sensory processiong disorder, auditory processing disorder, low iq, developmental delay and his fine motor skills issues.  He also has short term memory problems as well as opticular dysfunction which make learning very difficult, but he tries very hard.

It has taken alot of time, research and fighting to get where we are today and we still feel that the diagnosis is not complete.  He has been in occupational therapy again for a year and we have seen some improvements in his fine motor skills and his auditory and opticular issues.  This has also given us some skills that we need in order to help him when he is over stimulated and has major meltdowns because of it.

This is just a brief synopsis of what his issues are and every day is vastly different but we would not change him for the world.  He has taught us so much about what is important in life and he keeps us young and on our toes.

Raising children is a full time job and adding in a special needs child just adds another challenge to the mix, but its a challenge that we would not trade, even on our worst days. Rough days are frequent in our house but we are all learning to handle the situation given and our  teenagers have grown into such loving and supportive beings that love their little brother .

From time to time I will be sharing tips on handling children with sensory issues with exercizes that aide in lessening the frequency of meltdowns from overstimulation. These are things that we have learned from our occupational therapist that have helped us so far.

I hope that if you have a special needs child you would be  willing to share some your insight on how you handle different situations  and offer encouragement to those who are just starting their journey with this.

Thanks for stopping by and reading our story.

xoxo

Sonya

Love in Action

Happy Sunday Friends

As we are coming to the end of Easter week, I have been thinking alot about the resurection service I attended on Easter Sunday and the topic of the day, which was not letting the “darkness of the world” overcome our  lives.

I understand that that not everyone who visits here is a believer and that not everyone follows the same religious practice. The fact remains the same,  there is alot of darkness in our world and it can be a very scary place and regardless of our beliefs we can take something from what John Wesley said and apply it to our lives. 

“Do all the good you can.

By all the means you can.

In all the ways you can.

In all the places you can.

At all the time you can.

To all the people you can.”

John Wesley

These principles are really just a way to show kindness, love and compassion in action to those around us and in the process of doing those things we will be blessed by helping others.  

By being present in our daily lives and applying these things we can start making a difference in our communities and our world. I hope that you will take the time to be the light to someone. Feel free to share way in which you have been the light.

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xoxo

Sonya

Hello – my very first post and facing fears

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Hello there and welcome to my first post on this blog; I am so glad you are here! This is a place where I hope that you find something that inspires and encourages you in your faith, family and home.

My post will offer you insight into the everyday adventures in  my faith journey, the joys and struggles of raising a special needs child and two teenagers, as well as  my love for DIY and decorating, photography and eveything else in between.

Starting this blog has been something that I have thought about doing for over a year,  but have let fear of rejection, failure and the unknown hold me back.

While doing some research on how to start a blog I came across something from Mandi McGee  and her Simple Web Starter series, and it was just what I needed to get started.  I have to give her the credit for teaching me how to go about setting up this blog all on my own and in that,  giving me the confidence to write this blog post.

Completeting the Simple Web Starter series  has helped me see that I am living in fear and letting that hold me back from many things. Fear holds us back from trying new things as well as doing things we love.  So I am jumping in head first and facing some of those fears. 

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As I begin this journey of blogging and  putting myself out there for all to see, I am reminded of this scripture:

” For God gave us not a spirit of fearfulness; but of power and love and discipline.”

Timothy 1:7 (ASV)

This is a great reminder that we, ( you and I) were not created to be fearful, but to live out our lives in love and confidence, and to hold tight to his word. I hope that today you will choose to do one thing to face a fear of your own.  I woud love for you to leave me a comment about what your fears are and how you are facing them!

xoxo

Sonya

xoxo

Sonya